i think about the differences between these two words a lot. probably b/c i have a tendency to do too much of the former, and too little of the latter.
i hate it when i catch myself being "nicey-nice" and it isn't genuine (to mean customers where i work, for instance). why do i have this tendency? my feminist self blames it on the way girls are socialized to behave in this culture, but-
there are so many examples of amazing people out there who are not "nice" but incredibly *kind.* and there is a distinct difference. i used to have a friend who was sticky-sweet to everyone, and it got on my nerves b/c it was almost like the niceness was self-serving (maybe this is why i get so aggravated when i catch myself doing the very same thing!)
on the other hand, my grandfather is a rather crochety and cranky man, but drives to town (he lives in the country) *every morning* to get my grandmother her favorite fresh muffins! and once, he drove his pet chihuahua to a different city to receive *chemotherapy* b/c the dog had cancer. i love this man!
that said, i also think it's possible to be both. :) (nice as well as kind.)
this thread was actually inspired by the topic of a-monroe's thread, "why be nice?" (what a sucky situation by the way, a-monroe....good luck.)
so yeah. i guess i just want to talk about the difference between "nice" and "kind." why be nice?